"The one","Finding the one", "don’t worry, the one will come along when you least expect it". The one?How about instead of waiting for this perfect prince to come into our lives and rescue us in a white horse we start preparing ourselves to be THE ONE.

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I will not judge you.

I will just listen.

I do not have to know who you are, just know I am here. :)

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Thank you for your advice about not dating him because it would degrade me. I needed that. I've screenshotted your reply to remind myself and to help me stay strong. Thank you so much! x — Anonymous

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you’re welcome! I’m glad I was able to help <3

I've been in a relationship with a guy for two years and for most of those 2 years, we've done long distance. I've given everything I have to him. I was so ready to spend my life with him. He broke up with me last year because he needed time and over the 6 month break, we were still talking and eventually started being official but now he broke up with me again because he needs space. Should I just wait or just move on because I deserve better? I feel like I'm at a crossroad, I feel so stupid. — Anonymous

Accepting to date him again would simply be degrading to you. I mean, why wait for something that never knew how to appreciate you? You gave him chances already, it was about time that he’d grow up and make up his mind but it seems that he simply does not know what he wants. And that is the issue. So its pointless to wait. Move forward, remember that everything in life happens for a reason so be thankful to God that this guy was taken away from your life, sometimes things like those, even if they seem to be hurtful in the moment….later you will be glad it happened because you wouldn’t have been happy by his side. Keep your head up high, and don’t ever think this has anything to do with you. It is really him, he isn’t ready for something serious. 

God bless !


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How can you fully depend on god. — Anonymous

It really is all by faith and realizing our inability to do things on our own. Seen that in every step of the way, every little thing you do in life you are not capable of doing without Gods help. We can’t do this on our own, we need Him in every part of our lives.

Though we desist in our self-efforts to earn salvation and the promised eternal rest, we also “make every effort to enter that rest” by choosing to depend solely on God, to trust Him implicitly, to yield totally to the promises of God through the free grace of His salvation. Why? So “that no one will fall by following their [the Israelites’] example of disobedience” (Hebrews 4:11). We either trust ourselves to save ourselves, or we trust God to do that for us through the sacrifice of Christ on the cross. By failing to trust God fully in His promises, we become disobedient and fail to enter the rest that is eternal life, just as the children of Israel became disobedient when they failed to enter thePromised Land.

So how do we stop trusting ourselves? How do we place our full trust in God and His promises? We enter into God’s rest by first understanding our total inability to enter God’s rest on our own. Next, we enter God’s rest by our total faith in the sacrifice of Christ and complete obedience to God and His will. “And to whom did God swear that they would never enter his rest if not to those who disobeyed? So we see that they were not able to enter, because of their unbelief” (Hebrews 3:18–19). Unlike the Israelites whose unbelief prevented them from entering the Promised Land, we are to enter God’s rest by faith in Him, faith which is a gift from Him by grace (Ephesians 2:8–9).(c)

God bless!

What happens when you don't fit with anyone in and out of school? I know people and their personalities, I've tried befriending them. I've tried tolerating. What do I do? — Anonymous

Understand this: you do not need to fit to a certain “group” to be accepted. It is foolish to think that we ever will. We all have a variety of personalities, looks,ideas,ect. We are made unique so why attempt to change it in order to fit a certain group when it really is not worth it because it is not you. 

Like you, I always tried to fit in and I never did. I’d say I go with the flow, if the person likes me good if they don’t well I treat them the same exact way as if they did. There’s nothing about ourselves that we change that will make a difference. Maybe people will like it but what about you? That is making yourself of somebody that you are not. Ever heard the saying "I rather be hated by what I am than loved by what I am not."

So to answer your question: What happens if you do not fit it? absolutely nothing. We are not of this world, we are not supposed to fit in, we are here as a bliss. We belong to our creator. 

If i were you  I would just be content where are you are. Keep meeting new people, be the best friend that you can be, listen, be there  and do not change anything about yourself simply because others do not like it. 

God bless you! 

How do you really get "over" a guy? I've basically been in and out of a relationship with a guy who lives out of state and he really isn't the right guy for me but idk how to move on and to really get over him. We broke up for awhile (over 4-6 months) and I thought I could get over him but once he starts talking to me I find myself right back where I was. I want to be able to get over a guy who isn't the best for me so I can be ready for a real relationship. — Anonymous

Time and distance is the key. You need to get rid of anything that reminds you of him and allow time to do its work. You need to think about what’s best for you and if he isn’t the guy for you keep that up and remind yourself of how valuable you are and how you shouldn’t settle for anything less than what you deserve. Try to get involved in activities or hang out with friends so that you can distract yourself and have fun. Id say don’t look for anyone at the moment , allow those wounds to heal because if you jump into a relationship the only thing that will happen is that you will use him to forget and you’ll start comparing and neither of you will be happy. if it takes you 8 months , a year or two to fully heal then let it be. Don’t rush things, let it come to you on its own.

God bless !

Love sure is hard. It hurts until it breaks your heart. And yet, it is the most beautiful feeling in the world.